Autism| Being Overcautious- Having A Child With Autism

How it all started: Anna’s Story…

“My son, Harry, was born on Christmas Eve 2002. Although he was small, he was perfect in every way – with thick, blond hair and piercing blue eyes, he was like a miniature version of my husband, Tom, and we fell in love with him straight away.

Harry was hardly any trouble at all – he was a contented baby, whose sunny personality attracted compliments from everyone who met him. An energetic toddler, his happy chatter filled our lives and he would rush around, talking to everyone he met. He had a wide vocabulary and soon learned to express himself, telling anyone else who would listen what he thought about the world he was exploring.

But, over time, Harry became less chatty. At first, we thought it was a phase. Then, we began to notice more changes: Harry struggled to calm down after his tantrums, which were happening more and more frequently. He couldn’t get to sleep at night and spent hours tidying his toys into rows, only settling one they were all neatly in order.

As Harry’s mom, I tried my best to soothe him, giving him the kisses and cuddles that I thought he needed in a bid to show him how loved he was. But, as time went by, he became anxious, distant and, eventually, untouchable. He reacted violently to the affection that Tom and I would show him, pushing us away and then punishing himself with angry words, scratches, bites and slaps. I tried to reach Harry, to understand what he was experiencing, but he wouldn’t let me in.

“Just after Harry’s second birthday, our Doctor confirmed our fears: Harry was on the Autism Spectrum…”

So many emotions ran through us: fear, anger, confusion and, more than anything, guilt that we hadn’t been able to protect Harry from this condition.

Life after the diagnosis was tough. People who we considered good friends began to avoid us.

They no longer saw a beautiful, intelligent little boy – they only saw the anger and rage when he threw a tantrum. They couldn’t know that, when I looked into his eyes, I saw that my baby was frightened by the world around him and struggling to cope.

Harry didn’t notice the stares and tuts coming from the people around him. Instead, he carried on in his own little world, fulfilling the little rituals and habits that brought him comfort, lining up his toys and humming to himself. But, the uneducated responses and cruel comments from people around us took its toll on me. I felt so incredibly guilty that I couldn’t give Harry the care-free life I so desperately wanted him to have.

“As Harry’s mom, I felt a strong duty to protect him from the outside world, and from other people, who I worried would only see the negative side of his condition.”

Over the next couple of years, I kept Harry close to me as often as possible, turning down the few play-dates we received, rejecting invitations to parenting groups and encouraging him to play at home rather than taking him to the park. I was sure that other parents would look at him and notice the differences in his behavior.

In a bid to keep him from falling behind with all the milestones that other kids were passing, I would help Harry get dressed in the morning, ignoring his anger when I did his buttons up for him because it was taking him too long. At mealtimes, I’d cut his food up into bite-size pieces for him. Eventually, he stopped trying to get dressed or feed himself, and waited for me to do it for him.

It took a heart-to-heart conversation with my husband to make me realise what I was doing was wrong – not just for me, but for Harry. One night, when I had bathed and undressed Harry, cleaned his teeth for him and put him to bed, Tom asked me to come and sit by him in the sitting room. He told me he’d watched a webinar by a childhood Autism specialist, who explained the seven most common – and dangerous – mistakes that parents of children with Autism can make.

“In the webinar, he discovered that over-protecting Autistic children can have a serious negative impact on their long-term development.”

Feeling stung by my husband’s words, I finally agreed to watch the webinar with him. I was sure that whoever this so-called ‘expert’ was, she wouldn’t understand the challenges that Harry and I were facing. She wouldn’t know that, when I did Harry’s homework or tied his shoelaces for him, I was trying to help my little boy. 

As I watched the webinar, I felt tears well in my eyes. I realized that, by protecting Harry from the world, I’d stopped him from growing into the independent little boy that I wanted him to be. Instead of letting him take on new challenges and celebrating when he did a good job, I did everything for him.

In the webinar, renowned childhood Autism expert Sandra Arntzen, M.Ed., explained how over-protecting children on the spectrum can stop, or even reverse, their development. Often motivated by feelings of guilt or fear, parents wrap their Autistic children up in cotton wool and keep them away from challenging experiences that help children to grow, learn and achieve.

As I listened to Sandra outlining the other six mistakes that parents of children on the spectrum often make, I felt a sense of relief and comfort.

“After twenty years working with Autistic children, Sandra understands the difficulties and encourages parents to look forward to their child’s future, not back.”

As my wonderful little boy lay sleeping next door, I opened my mind to what Sandra was saying and vowed to let Harry have all the experiences he should have.

While I would be there forever to
support him, I would no longer live his life for him…

Raising a child with Autism is hard. It’s a long-term commitment but I’ve learned that, by encouraging your child to be independent, you can achieve hope, joy and freedom that you didn’t think was possible.

I’d encourage anyone out there to watch the completely FREE webinar by Sandra Arntzen, M.Ed to find out how to unlock your Autistic child’s potential starting now. Supporting your child appropriately from the earliest possible age is crucial.

Today, you can learn more about the seven most dangerous mistakes, and learn to avoid them.

“Remember: you are the key to your child’s future.” 

Children with Autism need strong parents and carers who will give them love, support, boundaries and structure. It’s time to take action, and you’re not alone.

“Join Sandra Arntzen, M.Ed for her FREE webinar, and help your child become one of the success stories.”

Register for your FREE webinar training with Sandra Arntzen, M.Ed now and discover the key to unlocking childhood Autism.  


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Zumba in NJ – New Jersey Tops Country in Zumba Dance Classes

Zumba in NJ has become one of the top five states in the Zumba world. You would think other states like California with a bigger population and more familiarity with Latin style dancing would have outranked it but this is not the case. Perhaps the reason for this is that California has a larger Spanish population but look in any Zumba class in New Jersey and what you see is a dance studio filled with everyday individuals, house wives, soccer moms, busy executives, school teachers, salespeople and even Hollywood A-list celebrities!
You see Zumba combines fun, motivating music and high energy dance steps with unique Latin-based moves and combos that allow the Zumba participants to dance away the days worries. At the same time have a blast. The principle behind Zumba is that the workout should be "Fun and Easy to Do." Let's face it, we all want the benefits that exercise brings us but who has the time for long tedious and boring workouts. That's what's completely different about a Zumba dance workout. This workout is not only great for your body but also provides tremendous benefits for your mind. Many Zumba practitioners call it the "feel happy workout."
According to the www Zumba com website, this aerobic workout is a fusion of Latin and international music was incredible dance themes that created dynamic, very effective and exciting fitness system. The routines themselves feature aerobic and fitness interval training. What that means is that a Zumba class will have you doing a combination of fast and slow rhythms that tone and reshape your body. Many individuals have reported not only losing body weight but also losing pounds and inches as a result of this cardio intensive dance workout.
Zumba was created by celebrity fitness trainer Alberto" Beto" Perez. Beto, a native Colombian came to United States in 1999 and brought Zumba with him. At that time it was called "Rumbacize." Beto was approached by two entrepreneurs and together they decided to change the world with their own unique brand of fitness philosophy. Zumba which is extremely popular throughout Florida has now become the hottest and fastest growing form of fitness not only in New Jersey but also in other countries around the world.
Zumba is aligned with most of the major fitness associations. Such as the aerobic and fitness Association of America, American Council of exercise, IDEA, and many others. If you have not tried a Zumba dance class in New Jersey… what are you waiting for?
To learn more about Zumba in NJ dance classes please visit here: Zumba Classes in New Jersey

Zumba New Jersey Just Keeps on Growing

It seems that the Zumba New Jersey world keeps growing everyday and we are doing our part to add to the knowledge base online of Zumba New Jersey. This Latin dance workout is addicting, besides teaching Zumba Classes in New Jersey seven days a week I also spend a considerable amount of time developing this web site with the help of my search engine optimization and design expert.
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Zumba Tanya Beardsley

Tanya Beardsley of Zumba is a specialist in education for the society (which means that it teaches a master class for instructors).
In addition, she was the co-host of the 2008 series of fitness DVDs and is currently featured in the series of DVD 2011 as well as in the Zumba fitness video game... currently she lives in Manhattan, New York and if you believe in these things it is a form of Cancer (zodiac sign).
Tanya was a professional dancer Ballroom before she tried her first class back in 2001 has been connected on this Latin inspired dance exercise program since then.
In addition to teaching a Zumba course at Equinox in New York, she also teaches other people on how to become an instructor in this exciting Latin dance session... now that is a member of team sez (Zumba education specialist).
Beardsley which is also certified by the AFAA group exercise classes as well as the American practice Council (ACE) travel around the world, providing instructions, as well as to support many fitness instructors in the network ZIN.

As mentioned previously, Tanya was a competitive ballroom dancer before joining the company. Although she spends much of his time in the classroom teaching and its guidelines, it is still time to training with weights 3-4 times per week.
It also considers that the diet is essential to the maintenance of a healthy life.
She tries to eat every three hours to maintain his body to a high metabolism. It will usually have a protein shake or a bar of proteins with a good carbohydrate before taking or teaching a class.

In addition to Alberto Beto Perez who was his idol of fitness, it also considers his brother, who is participating in the "Ironman competitions" as one of the people who were inspired in the life.
It has some interesting beliefs such as ""some movement is better than no movement to all the"and his favorite expression is"doubt kills. ""
Tanya was recently featured in shape Magazine became a "rock star" as a spokesman for Zumba. She enjoys an active life and teach this to other instructors in the world. Beardsley is in his thirties was quoted in Shape Magazine as saying that Zuumba (a common spelling wrong) has transformed his life.
Zumba fitness was named by People Magazine and others as the number one for 2011 fitness training. Is Vivica not surprising that celebrities such as Jennifer Lopez, Kirstie Alley and even a. Fox, join the ranks of supporters of the Zumba.

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Hello lovers, Zumba

Why do dancers often get growing pains?

Lots of girls and boys between the ages of 10 and 16 may be experiencing pain related to their rapid growth. Unfortunately as we grow, all the action takes place at the growth plates in our bones, and it does take some time for the muscles, ligaments and nerves to adjust to their new positions. This means that hamstrings that were allowing you to get into the splits easily three months ago might be a little short for the new leg they are attached to! As tempting as it is to stretch them out constantly, it is also a time when we have to be REALLY careful about how much, and how hard we stretch.


Unfortunately, a lot of your muscles attach to the bones right on the growth plate. For instance, the tendon that attaches your knee cap to your lower leg does so right on the growth plate of your tibia (shin bone). Your hamstrings also attach to a softer bit of bone at the base of your pelvis. If you stretch too vigorously, or are pushed into a stretch by someone else (try and avoid this wherever possible) you can actually pull the muscles where it attaches onto the bone, or even pull a little piece of the bone away. This is called an avulsion injury. Where your hamstrings attach (up under your bottom) is a really common place for this to happen especially if you are pushed into the splits. Try and feel any stretching in the middle parts of your hamstrings, especially if you know you are having a period of growth. If you are trying to regain your flexibility, make sure you focus on all the other muscles of the leg and pelvis rather than pushing into the splits.


The way the muscle attaches into the growth plates can cause a few different problems if you are doing a lot of sports involving jumping and running like dancing. This is why a lot of girls and boys who dance get issue with their knees around this time. If a muscle is working really hard and one end of it is attached to a growth plate, the constant pulling can aggravate the growth plate and you can get quite a bit of pain.


Osgood-Schlatters Disease is a very common form of growing pain that is caused by overuse. If you have pain below the knee cap, and you think it may be the growth plates you may be experiencing this syndrome and should visit your physiotherapist for management. Use Rest, Ice, Compression, and Elevation to settle any sudden increases in pain. If you are having more random pains at night, and the pain is more above the knee joint, it may be purely action at the growth plate. Make sure that when it has been a little sore you do not do too much jumping or strong stretching.


If you do have persistent pains in the knees, it is best to see a sports physiotherapist (physical therapist), ideally one that specializes in dancers, as they can show you exercises and taping techniques to reduce the pain.